1:1 Coaching Program
Raise Your Child as Empathetic Leaders
👉 Use toys or phone to distract your child from crying
👉 Unsure what toys are good, so you just buy everything
👉 Ignore your child’s crying to save yourself from embarrassment
👉 Give in, bribe, ignore problems
Your reality as a new mum…
The Result: Permissive Parenting
A friend-friend parenting approach, where you are afraid to offend your child, or you think ignoring your child’s behaviour will make their misbehaviour go away.
👉 Scold your child in public for their misbehaviours
👉 Sit your child down and get them to memorise alphabets or numbers
👉 Your child needs to follow your rules or else
👉 Strict, controlling, fear-based parenting
The Result: Authoritarian Parenting
A tiger-parenting style, where you believed that scolding your child will incite fear and therefore it will be easier to control them, and they won’t repeat their misbehaviours again.
Eventually, your child will grow up…
Under Permissive Parenting Style
Children:
👉 Do not respect boundaries
👉 Manipulate authorities to get away with things
👉 Demand and always get what they want
Under Authoritarian Parenting Style
Children:
👉 Have self-esteem issues
👉 Difficulty trusting others
👉 Trying to prove oneself to earn love
As a new mum, you are also feeling…
Fearful of raising your child the ‘wrong’ way
Unsure & lost because of your lack of knowledge
Inadequate because of the lack of strategies to manage behaviours
You are not alone.
Ten years ago, as an educator, I knew so little about child development. I was like you - using traditional methods to gain control. I would be raising my voice in the class, thinking that fear is the way to gain control of my classroom. At the end of the day, I asked myself, “Why am I so exhausted?” and “Why do I keep losing my voice?”
Since then, I started gaining more experiences - studying, researching, learning from experienced mentors and I finally found my ground.
The truth is…
You are not lacking as a parent. You are only lacking in skills and strategies in developing your child.
Fundamentally, it is not you as a person. It’s just knowledge.
If you’ve adopted a parenting style that you do not like, and you don’t know what else to do — it’s not your fault. As Singaporeans, we were raised in a certain way where — we were told what to do, and no questions asked. We were told to follow the rules or we will be caught and be shamed for our wrongdoings. This has led us to believe that instilling fear and control in our children will help us gain control of ourselves and our lives. But that’s further from the truth!
We need to begin to unlearn what we have learnt while growing up and embrace a new way of parenting.
As a parent, you want…
✅ Know what to do and know how to handle your child’s meltdowns
✅ Emotional support and guidance in your parenting journey
✅ Enjoy parenthood and build positive relationships with your child
✅ Be a parent where your child trusts you
1:1 Coaching with Eshlyn
Raising Empathetic Leaders through Conscious Parenting
A private coaching experience that will guide you to connect and play with your child, discipline positively without pulling out your hair and getting it all done at your own pace and place.
By the end of the program, you’ll be able to…
⚡️Reduce Tantrums & Meltdowns
Empower your child by empowering yourself. You’ll learn how to discipline your child without feeling riled up or in a chaos.
🎯 Develop Your Child’s Skills Faster
Million of ways to engage your child while getting back your time and energy. You’ll learn what actually develops your child’s brain and how to nurture it.
🔉 Communicate with Intention
Deeply connect with your child without shouting, screaming or getting frustrated. Discover how to communicate effectively without threats or manipulation.
❤️ Parent Joyfully at Your Own Pace
Consciously parenting your child while your child respects you and trusts you. Having all the essentials you need for every age and every stage.
Mummy wins!
Before I joined the program, I was frustrated with my child and didn’t understand her behaviour and what she wants. I struggled with understanding her needs and I was impatient with her.
After the program, I feel I understand her better and knowing there’s always an underlying reason for their behaviour makes me more willing to be patient with her.
Now, I’ve improved my communication with her, I can understand her better and communication seems more effective with her. I’m not losing my patience so easily with her.
I love everything about the program! Eshlyn puts her point across in a concise manner, easy to understand and the topics are all relatable. She has good advice to give and always have a solution for every child problem.
— FELICIA
Mum of 13 month old daughter
Understand my daughter better because there’s an underlying reason for her behaviours
Feel more patient with her now and communication seems much more effective
The Curriculum
The 1:1 coaching experience will give you the skills and strategies you need to raise your child to become empathetic to others and responsive to you.
Module 1
Development
Get clear on your child’s development to develop skills faster
In this module, you’ll learn:
the different types of parenting styles and how to educate children with the most ideal parenting style
the different domains of children’s development and how to nurture your child holistically
the developmental checklist to understand where your child is exactly at to reach their fullest potential
Plus so much more!
Module 2
Connection
Get deep in connecting so your child will respond every time with joy
In this module, you’ll learn:
my signature method to communicate with young children with calm and ease
know what to say exactly that will help your child go from tantruming to thriving
how to use positive discipline strategies instead of punishments
how to handle different emotional stages at every age with breeze
learn how to respectfully, intentionally and consciously parent your child
Plus so much more!
Module 3
Play & Learn
Building your child’s whole brain and body every single day
In this module, you’ll learn:
the cognitive and sensory aspects of a child and what makes them tick
how your child’s brain learns and best strategies to educate them
how children learn through play by using the brain-body connection method
how moving your child’s body can help build your child’s intellect
Plus so much more!
Module 4
Parent Joyfully at Your Own Pace
Putting it altogether to creating a thriving & loving home environment
In this module, you’ll learn:
how to remove screen time and educate your child through sensory play and educational toys
Your cheatsheet of endless play: know exactly what your child needs at every stage
how to set up your home environment ideal for any type of play
how to develop speech, cognition, numeracy skills using play
all the play tool essentials you’ll need to engage your child
Plus so much more!
✨ Fun Definitions ✨
Child Development
It’s simply knowing your child’s milestones, so that you can help your child develop their own skills such as gross or fine motor skills, socio-emotional skills, sensory skills.… Basically, all the typical development necessary for your child’s growth (according to doctors/paediatrics and professionals) :)
EQ Communication
Using a language that speaks to your child’s heart, mind and soul. Instead of using passive-aggressiveness that some of us might be used to while growing up, we adopt a EQ language communication method, so that your child knows your intentions for disciplining them.
Sensory Play
Learning through play helps us remember things better. Children need to feel, touch, see, and experience their learning, so that they can grasp concepts such as creativity & imagination better.
Connection
Connection is knowing what your child wants to say and do even before your child does something. This is the superpower of understanding your child so well that you don’t need to second guess what your child wants or needs. Your child feels safe everytime they come to you.
Cognition
Cognition is usually defined as regurgitating information, or how fast your child is memorising information, and how smart a child is. However, cognition (information) may be important, but it’s also important to have EQ. Through the tools and skills you’ll learn inside 1:1 coaching, you can help your child develop both cognition and EQ.
“I was impressed by the knowledge Eshlyn has and touched by her passion and love for kids. I can feel that Eshlyn is very sincere. I appreciate that I could learn things that I could apply.”
— SYLVIA
Mum of 8 month old son
Your Child’s Growth Begins Here
The coaching programme is applicable for Parents of children aged 0 to 4 years
1:1 weekly coaching sessions
60-min sessions for three months
Private messaging support via whatsapp
What’s included inside the program
Price: $997 (pay in full) or
$350 x 3 (payment plan)
Mummy Wins!
“My kids are able to understand me and follow my instructions better now!”
Communicate efficiently with my kids: I was scared to try, but after trying Eshlyn's methods, my kids are able to understand me and follow my instructions better now!
I love the 1-to-1 guidance: It is very specific to my case and I received a lot of guidance for my parenting journey.
Providing alternatives to solve issues at home: Eshlyn gives me a lot of alternatives that suits my parenting styles and family circumstances.
Before I met Eshlyn, I was very unstructured in my parenting, not sure what to do and how to do it. I was feeling scared to start educating my kids because I don't like to fight with my kids. I was struggling with giving rules, setting boundaries, and communicating effectively.
During our sessions, Eshlyn guided me step-by-step on parenting better such as improving my communication with my kids, helping me to build confidence and trust from my kids.
Now after working with Eshlyn, she taught me how to be more clear with my instructions such as pre-empting my kids. Now my kids are more accepting to my instructions and explanation.
Now, I feel more confident to make small steps in my parenting, and I am also able to have two-way communication with my kids.
I can understand them better and they can understand me better.
I feel that, as a family, we can progress together hand-in-hand.
— INGGRID
Mum of two children aged 2.5 and 3.5
“I feel that I enjoy motherhood a bit more now.”
Before joining the program, I was clueless and unsure of what I can do with my son. I was unsure of his needs and how to meet his sensory needs. I was feeling less confident in engaging him. There's so much information on the internet, and I felt unsure what is helpful and what kind of activities will be suitable for him.
Now, I know his needs better.
Eshlyn helped me to fine tune my rhythm and his rhythm. I'm able to reflect and make changes.
Now, I enjoy moments with him. I have strategies to manage him when he’s having a meltdown. Using the communication method, and during our home sessions, Eshlyn helped me to see other alternatives. For example, when my son is shouting, she modelled how to respond to him.
During the program, I was impressed by the knowledge Eshlyn has and touched by her passion and love for kids. I can feel that Eshlyn is very sincere. I appreciate that I could learn things that I could apply.
Now, I am feeling more confident of what are the things I can do with our son. Also, better able to manage the difficulties arising with taking care of him. I will recommend parents who are struggling and wants to improve their parenting skills with their child.
— SYLVIA
Mum of 8 month old son
Feeling more confident carrying out activities with my son.
Better able to understand his different needs - physical, social, cognitive and sensory.
I feel that I enjoy motherhood a bit more.
“Now, everything is clearer. I feel that my son is more focus in learning. I also understand what is going on and why he is behaving in a certain way.”
As a first-time parent, this program really works very well. It’s a customised program.
Everything is clearer now. I feel that my son is more focus in learning now.
We tried out sensory play, spend more time with him, and he became overall much happier and more holistic.what writing here
I feel as young parents, we don’t have much ideas, and we might not be able to handle things the proper way. I had a lot of questions and parenting was a guessing game. Sometimes, unpredictable situations happen, and as young parents, we do not know how to handle.
I have totally zero experience in handling a toddler as a first-time mum. And it’s more of wanting to be better, and have less struggles along the way. It’s like “We don’t want to struggle, so we join your program.”
Now, everything is clearer. I feel that my son is more focus in learning now. I also understand what is going on and why he is behaving in a certain way. I can guide him better and in a more proper way. I can also see that he is happier now. He listens to us more and he is more understanding and less cranky. He follows instructions more. We tried out sensory play, spend more time with him, and he became overall much happier and more holistic.
Win #1 — I feel I understand him more. It’s easy to understand. Initially, we don’t know what his behaviour means, now he has less struggles and frustrations. He knows how to express himself through gestures.
Win #2 — There was a period of time, where he kept climbing all over the furniture and he wanted new toys and got bored with everything. Now we keep rotating the toys, and try out new sensory play and he enjoys painting. I gave him some painting sessions with all the different activities. He feels happier at home.
Win #3 — Sometimes, he melts down and he wants what he wants. We don’t give it to him. He will throw a tantrum. Now, knowing and learning more about sensory (systems), understand more about the motor skills, especially the different types of motor skills, how a kid thinks and how children use their left and right brain. Now, I can give him more activities to balance his mood.
The 1:1 Program helps me to see things more clearly, and manage him in a more systematic way. Rather than, like doing things in a guessing game way. Everything is clearer now.
Our communication with our son has changed too. He is more mature now. He understands things more as a toddler. He understands us better as a parent rather than being cranky and struggling based on what he wants.
Previously, if we didn't go through this (1:1 program), we will probably be using force, or strict way of approach, like scolding. Natural human reaction towards a child. Most parents will do that. It’s definitely not a one or two day thing. It’s a gradual thing.
I learnt more - something that I never knew about sensory (systems). I understand further and more in depth, learn more about the right and left brain and how to work on the child, that’s very interesting. I also learnt about activities that stimulate the left-and-right brain. It interests me and I read up more. We enjoy ourselves more as we play. It also builds the family bonding sessions.
Rather than last time, before, I don’t know much, we will let him watch tv, leave him alone and play his own toys and I do my own work.
Eshlyn will guide parents to understand your own child without struggling too much and guessing your child’s behaviour. Also, the flow of the program, it’s not by the book. To me, this program is very individual. I can take it and share it with someone, but will it fit to their kid?
It’s a very personal program. It’s a customised program.
— CLAUDIA
Mum of 18-month-old son
What will your Child Be in the FUTURE?
Just imagine that you…
✅ Understand your child’s behaviour more
✅ Your communication with your child has changed drastically
✅ Know what stimulates your child’s brains
✅ Have strategies to handle meltdowns anywhere and anytime
✅ Feel more confident in meeting your child’s needs
✅ Be more clear with your instructions
✅ Have a beautiful and joyful parenting experience daily
✅ Enjoy motherhood
✅ Have a happy child and a happy life!
Questions? Ask Away!
How do I enter this program?
You can book a call here. A booking link will be sent to your email. Show up on the specific date and time, and we will chat about your goals for your child during this 40-min zoom call.
When will the coaching sessions be?
The sessions will be once a week, either on weekday nights or weekends on zoom.
What will be covered inside the program?
The program is a 60-min or 90-min weekly zoom sessions for three months. The materials will be covered based on your specific need to you and your child. There will be a short teaching session and presentation for you, and then coaching will be done to discuss how you can implement what is taught to you immediately.
